My Sex Life... or How I Got Into an Argument

My Sex Life... or How I Got Into an Argument

1996 · 181 min · ★ 6.5 · Comedy, Drama, Romance

Paul Dedalus is at a crossroads in his life. He has to make several decisions; should he complete his doctorate, does he want to become a full professor, does he really love his long-standing girlfriend, or should he re-start with one of his other lovers?

Directed by Arnaud Desplechin · Written by Arnaud Desplechin

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